My spiritual teacher, Yogi Bhajan, not only masters all aspects of Yoga and life, but also all aspects of relationships, male and feminine energies, basic needs, projections, and so on.

The following are some notes that I gathered from his “many many teachings” that will allow you to better understand yourself and your partner:

On love
“Love is the highest fulfillment on every level…When you feel selflessness within yourself and you can vibrate for someone, then you are fulfill with love…Whenever you can’t betray you have to sacrifice, and to sacrifice is to suffer….love is hatred and hatred is love; there is no different. In one ego is satisfied, in the other one is not…love has no limit. When it has limit then it’s not love…”

On communication

“…if the couple can’t sit down and talk to each other honestly there is not counselor, priest, no psychiatrist can make them talk honestly….without honesty we don’t have any hope…all marriage people in the 3ho who have marriage problems are only those who do not talk because their mother didn’t talk, or their father didn’t talk.

On being a woman

“It’s through a woman that man is born, and it is her divine obligation to maintain her identity as the sustainer of mankind, the ideal toward whom man can look for inspiration…”

“You must understand your basic psychology. You will suffer is you don’t understand it. You have a fluctuation construction base on the 28 cycle of the moon. The moon center of your chin leaves you open to earthly vibrations. This is your only basic weakness, that which makes you want a man. If you didn’t have this time in your cycle when you think you want a man, then you would never have anything to do with them…”

On being a wife

“Marriage is a job which basically is the woman’s responsibility (70%) because she is better equipped to handle it: She is a Rolls Royce; he is only a Ford. She is a heavy duty tire whereas a single needle will flatten his tire”

“…Decide whether you are going to make him or break him, as that decides your marriage. Do it for yourself. This is one of the ways women can get liberated –through serving an egocentric man gratefully. God will have to come to you; you won’t have to find him”

“a good woman has 11 rays in her projected arc line; a man has nine. She can penetrate the man’s aura and trigger the pituitary. She is 16 times more intelligent than he; she has 16 times more stamina, is 32 times more firm in her ideas, 64 times more intuitive, and has 32 times more power to defend herself than the man. She is 16 times more intellectual, 16 times more compassionate, and 16 times more patience than he”

“…our desire for recognition can be our biggest downfall. I can make us dominating and pushy. It also makes us 16 times more jealous than a man. When a woman is power hungry she is a monster”

On being a man

“The strength of a man doesn’t lie in what he has. The strength of amn lies on what he can give. Only those who can give who have the capacity to tap into the universe. If the universe is not in your mind, your heart can’t give”

“Your business, work, social status, your social relationship, your everything depends on what? What do you do everything for? For a woman. Every male has one central pivot, and that must be a woman”

On being a husband

“A man can lose everything in this planet but hope. To built up what you need to built up, there is no magic which can help you except sadhana. Your not doing it is not laziness, negativity, self-depression—it is self-denial”